Below is a common theme to your threads. I wanted to give you an illustration that might be helpful.
Let's say that the red(fire) represents the time that you DO NOT spend investing on yourself and the green(growth) obviously represents the time that you do.
Big difference, right? The more red you have, the longer it will take to get to the other side of this hell. Unfortunately, the only way to the other side of this hell, is through it. No shortcuts or detours. Right down the middle of this bad boy.
Make it all green and get rid of the red.
Originally Posted by kech
One minute I feel super confident and fine, and the next I feel super sad and wonder what hes doing with his time and if hes falling in love with this OW. This is such an awful thing to go through. And I already know when he shows up tonight im going to smell beer on him. He spends such little time with D each night, like an hour each night before she falls asleep on him. And he just chooses to spend his time doing God knows what and lies and says hes working. I know if I drove by the bar I'd see his car half the time. But I avoid doing that because it gets me nowhere.
I dont know that anything gets me anywhere. In reality everyone has says, nothing I do will change what hes doing. I wish I didnt want to be with him so I could really shock him. One day maybe.
Going to dress myself up after work, makeup on, look great, feel great. And leave when he gets here and go do some things for myself.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Wow. Thats a wake up call. I dont know why i vent so much on here about him. I know im so focused on him. I need to stop. Today has been such a rough day because I have thought of him all day long.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Hey all. I went and gal last night, and looked great while doing it. Came home around 10:15, H left. I woke up today and have been out and about with daughter all day, but my mind is completely occupied with thoughts of what h is doing. Any thoughts today? Wish this was getting easier.
Kech, I think I’m your male doppelgänger. Want to see some real anxiety spinning out of control? Check out my thread.
But we will survive. This can’t kill us. It hurts like heck but LITB is right: straight down the middle of this bad boy.
Just know that you’re not the only one, and you aren’t failing. Emotions are real but they aren’t reality. The suffering IS the process. Until it burns out completely. It has to.
H: 35 W: 33 M: 11 T: 13
4/10/18: I discovered A and confronted ("BD1") 6/23/18: I moved out 8/31/18: MC ends ("BD2")
Hey all. I went and gal last night, and looked great while doing it. Came home around 10:15, H left. I woke up today and have been out and about with daughter all day, but my mind is completely occupied with thoughts of what h is doing. Any thoughts today? Wish this was getting easier.
This is a big step in a long process. It is fine if your mind is occupied with thoughts of your H. I can assure you, keep GAL over the course of time, and there will be a reduction to those thoughts. Good job.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
The baby is napping and the quietness of this house is killing me. I’ve stayed busy all day but I’m starting to really see how different my life is now. We used to have such fun weekends. Even if my H worked, we always had things planned to do or we had each other to hang out with. I feel overwhelming sadness today, feeling super lonely and just like I can’t believe this is my life now.
I have tons of friends and family, but I just want my H. I miss my best friend today a whole lot. Not sure why I’m feeling so low today. I’m sure it’s normal for some days to feel this bad. It’s a day when I don’t see light at the end of the tunnel. I don’t see how my life will ever feel as full of love as it once did.
Just such a different life, so lonely. I feel as if my husband is out living this exciting new life, doing things with other people that I’ve begged him to do with me. And that him me and the baby should be doing together, and I feel as though he is doing it now with new people. I don’t know this, I just feel this way. I hope I’m wrong. I just can’t imagibe him EVER coming back when he’s got such excitement in his life now or something with this new life.
I know this is all focused on him. I’m just struggling this weekend big time.
