Newcomer here - tightrope walking

[ovrrnbw]

So she's sending mixed signals right??? Don't believe anything she says and only half of what she does. Her repeated actions will tell the truth.

You do deserve better, and I agree that the divorce is probably an easier path.

Your W wants to remain "close friends" if you D, b/c she doesn't want to lose you. But she won't commit to you. So she wants you to be OK as plan B. It sounds like she needs to hear from you that you won't be her friend. Period. End of story.