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[Jim1234]

Jim, you and your wife must be very detail-oriented people. It seems you two have been working on this for so long. Too bad the mediator can't help. I guess they put in a certain number of hours and then decide that's all they can do. I hope you'll soon make progress. I'm curious to hear more about the woman you're dating. Is she also divorced? Did you ever tell her that you'd be open to taking your wife back if your wife changes her mind before the divorce is over? Is your new girlfriend someone who you'd be open to marrying someday?

I am too detail oriented. I want everything split 50/50 down to the penny, because that's the "right" way to do it. That's just who I am. I did have an epiphany recently, and now, really just don't care. The estate is large enough that being off by a significant amount just doesn't matter anymore. It would be off my maybe 1 %, and I can live with that.
Unfortunately, If I had had that insight 5 months ago, we'd be done by now.

This woman is also getting divorced. Hers has dragged on for over 4 years. She's been a good source of insight and suggestions, and has asked some really hard questions that make me think about my part in the failure of my R, and the limits of my part, too. And at this point, unless W expresses a great desire to make significant changes, I'm not willing to take her back. As far as marrying her, lets just say both of our emotional walls are really high. We enjoy each other's company, but it's too soon for me to think about this.