So W and I spend a considerable amount of time together. Mostly centered around food or watching movies. She demonstrates much more respect and I don't micromanage. I listen more than I speak and for the most part, it is working. Still no intimacy. Sometimes I feel like things could lead there, but I try to default to "I'm still going to let her make the first move". This too is another 180.
I still have times when I feel suspicious, angry and resentful, but it is usually when W isn't around. I mitigate those feelings and they go away.
I often wonder if there is something else that I need to be doing. If I have been friend-zoned and I am again wasting my time. Perhaps we are going through a process of a reset and I need to be patient.
When I look to God, I feel like I just need to be patient. When I embrace my God give masculine energy I tend to think I shouldn't tolerate this and should look at moving along.
If there is some way I should be or a behavior I should increase, I wish I knew what it was.
No advice here, just that you seem to be in a similar place as me. It's tough. I at least try (not very successful all the time) to remind myself that where I"m at now is much better than where i was a few weeks/months ago.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
