Neffer, thanks so much for your help. Did you pull away from your W a lot while seeing OW, even when you were not living in the home with your W?
No K, I left home twice. The first time for a week long, the second time I don´t clearly remember because I was overstressed at work too (welcome to the limbo...), maybe a month away. My W didn´t knew then I had OW when I left home. Of course I´m not proud of my behavior...
Originally Posted by kech
Neffer, 1 more thing, YOu stated that Limbo is for you guys, the WS. That is probably why I feel so horrendous being in it. Doesnt it just allow thw WS to build a stronger and stronger relationship with OW? I know about OW and have told my H I know about her, and he denies it, says there is no one else. Tells me all the time he is sleeping at his best friends house, blah blah blah. I do not bring her up, but when I found out 2 weeks ago I told him I know and he swore there is no one (lie, lie lie). Anyways, knowing limbo is for the WS, doesnt it just allow him to build something more with OW while me, (his wife) and daughter are just at home kind of letting things be. I leave when he comes over, I try to not let him have as much access to me, but im just terrified of him falling in love with her. Im terrified if I dont continue MAKING myself relevant in his life, he will just forget about me and move on with her. Any insight into your mind on this?
K, there´s a lot of mind reading there. Stop that for your own sake. You´ll get anxious for free. C´mon! You control what you control: yourself. DBing seems counterintuitive but it works!
Read again all your sitch. We are all telling you the same things. You have the strength to do this. F@ck the fear. Move!!!
