kech, I think you are getting hung up on the fear that your lack of contact with him will make his bond with the OW stronger.

So what is the option? To pressure and pursue him? Statistically pressure and pursuit (I'd estimate the success rate of these at activities at less than 1%) do that far faster than detachment does!

So you can detach, and continue working on that with the hope that the time and space make him miss you. OR you can pursue and pressure him right into the OW's arms. I am really not seeing any other options and I have read and commented on dozens of sitches here.

Go back and read the John and Mary story. Do you love him enough to want him to be happy no matter what? Or are you just afraid of being alone?

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018