Not sure what to do. . .can anyone help?

[mbe76]

Went to the solicitors today and as she seems to be digging her heels in about wanting a divorce, I went to see what my legal options are. He basically said that I am in a no win situation, while she is at home with the children, she has nothing to lose by staying there and if I went back it would not be in anyone's interest long term. Basically he said I am paying her too much- I have been paying her the equivalent of child maintainence for the three children and I have also been paying 50% of the mortgage plus the house insurance. He said this wasn't sustainable and I should only pay half of what I am paying now so that I can afford my own place suitable to have the children stay with me. It feels like a Hobsons choice- he said he often sees this result in the W realising she can't afford the mortgage and bills etc. On her own. So he said to stop paying it. He said that there was no rush to file for the D and that the longer I gave it, the more opportunity I'd have to save for a deposit etc. I wish she would make up her mind.