Starting here, Shes a QLC?

[Shrike]

Interesting texts from her last night.

Her: I dont think I can give you what you want right now.
Me: what is it you think I want?
h:all of me, physically and emotionally, I mean physically I can give you what you want no problem lol, but emotionally no. Commitments no. What do you want exactly
m: right now, i just want to set boundaries, im not ok with all of this, its volatile isnt it?
h: thats entirely up to you?
m: yeah, I get that. I guess then i dont really want anything from you. I want you to go through whatever you are going through and come out the other side a better person. I know you've been struggling with yourself for years. Just as I have been struggling with myself.
h: thats probably the most encouraging thing you've said to me. I have definitely been struggling and its ongoing, but I feel like im working on it. I hope you like the person I am after its all said and done? I also hope we can reconcile after we've actually made positive changes? not just superficial ones
m: what exactly does reconcile mean to you? i think you need to face your inner issues alone, because I will get in the way if i tried to be there for you.


then she didn't text me back and I assume that was too much pressure from me.

this morning, when she was picking up the kids, I could tell she was avoiding the conversation. I didn't try to push it, but she asked why I was being so quiet.
I said, because she never answered the question.
then she said it could mean lots of things really, ''i feel like we have sort of reconciled already''
I said ''no, we just haven't been fighting''
she said, ''oh, well it could just mean that in the future we have a new relationship or even a friendship.''
I said ''no, it doesn't mean friendship to me'' she just laughed and said ''oh just the one thing then''
I said'' maybe, just the one thing, who know's.
I ended it there and said i hope she had a good day and I would see her later to get the kids.

This stuff is difficult. I wasnt feeling down or out, felt pretty positive and confident. i kept it calm and was sure of myself in my answers, even if I was unsure if they were the right things to say.

Oh well, new day!