Runaway husband

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Hi Mama,

here's my thoughts:

1. Quit pressuring him to take accountability for his part of this marriage failure.
2. Validate his feelings when he say things about the marriage - his feelings are his feelings.
3. Stop begging and pleading - it's unattractive. Be the strong, smart, fun woman he fell in love. Fake it if you must.
4. GAL - get a life. It will helps with points 1 and 3 as well.
5. Stop the R talk. This is pressure and it isn't working for you. Do what works. And don't do what doesn't work.
6. Quit trying to break down his wall - you can't. Instead you need to be so happy with life that he is wanting to come out of his castle. Picnic analogy: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1833684
7. Read the links Cadet posted.
8. Quit thinking about "reconnecting through therapy and getting the spark back" or anything else that you can't control. It takes two to make a relationship work, and it won't work until he is ready.
9. Brace for the OW (other woman).