MLC or WAW?

[EZdozit]

Journaling:

I have picked up my career/job hunt significantly. Had 3 phone interviews and scheduled 2 FTF interviews for next week. Nieither get me too excited, but the interview practice will be helpful....and may need to take one just to keep afloat.

S attorney is a grade A deterrent and is challenging everything regarding child support. Since I was termed last month, I had to make a motion to modify temp orders as I have limited income. W actually challenged this, claiming since I’m “capable of making an income at $$xyz that I should continue to have to pay $xyz/month in child support. W makes 6 figure income, so I was shocked to see her trying to claim she would have difficulties supporting our S w/o that income. We split 50/50 and I incur the same expenses similar to her. Won’t concern myself with it, since it’s out of my control.

I made commitment to stand for mr as this progresses and I’m noticing a huge uptick in WAS behavior in her tantrum throwing as she doesn’t get her way and things aren’t going the way I believe she initially invisioned in being a single parent. As I haven’t made anything easy for D....I’ve put a stop to any and all cake eating. The lack of control she no longer has over me I know is grating at her. When she initially BD, she envisioned I would get a place across the street from her place so S could ride bikes too and from homes...thought we would go in family vacations to DisneyLand, etc. Craziness ...I am now sure it’s a full blown MLC.

Another item that I’ve put a stop to is communication with W aunt. Since BD, she had taken an interest in my recovery as she is also involved in AA. I initially welcomed the support and she would claim that she considered me family, etc. I even went to a meeting with her once. She claimed that she wouldn’t involve W in any way regarding our communication, but realize that blood is thicker than water. (Aunt is closest sibling to W father). As I reflect to now...I was doing so thinking it may be a way back into MR as crazy as that sounds. Anyone have similar experiences in dealing with spouses family members? We were all close, but need to separate church and state now.

I now will have my attorney fight my battle to keep my interests in check and let w dream of how things will be succumb to reality.

My sitch is starting to appear bleak on opportunity for R....but I remain patient, calm, and consistent.

Marathon not a sprint..

Progress not perfection.