The problem is that everyone has mental/emotional issue these days. My W had an abusive (to her mother not her) father. She had a rough childhood through age 10. Plus her relationship with her father has never been good. On top of that, her mom remarried and her step-dad, while pretty good father figure, eventually crossed the line when she was in her late teens and propositioned her. Her mom then sided with her husband over her daughter.

Obviously this had an impact and has affected my W in her adult relationships. Including ours. She also has a problem of letting go of past hurts, IE forgiving. That has obviously had a big impact on our relationship.

But here is the thing. None of it matters. If your WAS is defective or right as rain, you still need to detach, GAL, and 180. It doesn't change what you need to be doing.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018