Here we go again.

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There doesnt seem to be alot of discussion here about actual mental conditions of spouses that leave. For example my ww had a father that was distant and a mother and step father that are both functioning alcoholics. She has never gotten any professional help with it until now.

She is seeing the IC that we went to 2 years ago. The first meeting they had a few weeks ago. Ww told her we had a fight about the first affair. Therapist told her we need to split up if I can't get over it. Th9s 8s the same therapist that said we were good and didnt need to come back. Never gave me/us toold to help deal with the imence pain of the A. Not very marriage friendly! I was real scared that all her reasoning for leaving would just be reinforced. But that doesn't seem to be the case. I have my own IC that seems pretty good. She agreed to go with me to see him next week. Hopefully she goes.

Things are looking slightly better however she is still texting and talking to om2. But I look at its an addiction and its going to take a while.

I am retired so I have been looking for a part-time job just to keep busy. We dont really need the money, unlese we D.
But being that I'm older it hard because all they see on my online application is my age. But Im in excellent shape, run bike work out. So that will take some time. One of the things ww would say to me when she was angry was that the only reason I stay with her is for the money. I pointed out how much better off I would be if we D. That made her think.