I do journal. I was a creative writing major in college so writing has always been a good outlet for me. I set goals while reading DR the other night. She said to write down short term goals, but it was more for your marriage goals. The goals I’ve set for myself are to stay off social media to keep myself from looking at OW, don’t snoop, don’t drive by the bars he frequents. These are all goals I have succeeded at so far.
Some other goals are trying to stop thought when him and OW pop in my mind. It’s hard. I do my best with that but it’s not always successful. I’d like to start GaL a little better, but it’s kind of tough since we haven’t really told people. I’m still doing a lot on my own, but not doing as much with my friends as I normally would be if H and I were in a good place. But I am really soul searching with my free time, reading a lot.
I need to set some more goals for myself, I have a lot of things I have to do and I need to make sure I’m doing the things I need to do and not just thinking about his time. We will see. One day at a time!! Taking a breather from over thinking, it’s been such an emotional time. Hoping if I just chill out for a few days and not think too much I can regroup and keep pushing forward with this.
