Blu, very well stated. I do have to say that kech is leaps and bounds where she was weeks ago. I am not sure how far back you read, but at one point she was still having sex with him. She shut that down. She was routinely sad and weepy around him, she 180'd on that. So she has made great strides.
But yes, one of the things I've tried to get her to get over was her fear of D. As long as she is so scared of D, and attaches too much meaning to D (that it is final and irreversible) I don't think she can successfully DB until she gets over that fear. kech, you allow your fear of D, and trying to avoid it at all costs, to inform your actions and decisions. This is not good and will cause you to do the wrong things and make bad decisions.
So while I think you've made great strides, I agree with Blu that you have a lot of improvements to still make.
Steve, you have no idea how much I appreciate you and all your help. I have GOT to get over all my fear of D. You are absolutely right. And I also appreciate you stating I have made great strides.
I am really trying to find my power in this. Speaking to a lawyer will be my first step in finding my power over the D and hopefully not be SO afraid of it.
