Feeling lost, scared and wanting to fix this.

[SteveLW]

Just keep detaching. Read the detachment thread daily. Detachment is an art, not a science. Yes it is difficult at first. The thing is to be polite, present, engaged, confident, pleased, upbeat. But still aloof, as in you aren't engaging first. You aren't starting conversations. You aren't following her around like a puppy dog.

It is difficult when the WAS starts to reach out. How to handle that. My advice is to use your gut instinct and weigh each reach out separately. For instance, if she texts me about apple pie, and I want apply pie, I might take her up on that. If I already ate, and she offers me dinner, then it is fine to respond with "No thank you, I already ate."

Eventually the WAS may ask what is going on, why are you "distant"? Remind them they asked for space, and out of respect for their request you are giving it to them. Funny how many WASs will ask for space, and they complain when they get it. Which shows they will complain no matter what you do.

Also, the no shirt thing speaks volumes. This is a W that is not feeling it for her H right now. Complaints like that only come from Ws that aren't attracted to their Hs. So you really need to back off and detach. Make her come to you.