H came over last to see baby. He was pleasant to me which was a nice change from Sunday. He stated he plans to mow the yard for me as well as finish the carport etc. I thanked him for that and said I appreciate it. He noticed a guitar in a case in the living room and asked whose it was, I told him it was mine (haven’t had it out in a while because my niece borrowed it). He then asked when my niece starts her piano lessons. (He hasn’t asked about something like that in a REALLY long time, so I was pleasantly surprised, and didn’t even realize I had told him about it). I said actually she just started them this week and she’s really good. He said “of course she is!” It felt so unusual to me but in a positive way.
He then told me how he is going to give me money for the mortgage and also for dog to get groomed by some grooming place (I usually just give the dog baths so again I was surprised by this) and that after the dog gets groomed he will take him to the vet for his annual check up, shots, etc. Then he said he is going to pay off his truck and get his own place. I said that’s great and asked if he would be getting a place with someone or alone. He said he hadn’t thought about it yet, and I basically stated I’m glad for but no getting a place with another woman. (Probably shouldn’t have said this, but just felt I needed to say that, as the baby would not be going there if he made a stupid move like that. I’m learning and know this wasn’t the best move, but he didn’t seem to mind). He said “absolutely not, I’ve learned my lesson”. And smiled at me. I made a face and kept playing with the baby.
He then went into the kitchen to make baby’s dinner and said “so what’s up, have you told your family?” Meaning about us. I was caught off guard, but clearly he had planned to ask that bc I could tell he felt a little uncomfortable asking it but wanted to get it out. I said “no I haven’t. Have you told yours?” He said he hadn’t at all and that he hadn’t spoken to his mom in a bit. I was pretty quiet during this exchange and just softly said “before you do, could you let me know”. And he said “I’m not going to until we both want to” and I just said ok. Maybe we can give it some time.
He agreed and went right back to making the baby’s dinner and excitedly talking to the baby. Seemingly happy I hadn’t told my family, of course.
I left after that for a few hours to get out and GAL. While I was gone he sent me 2 pictures of him and the baby.
I am for once not trying to dissect all of this. Not trying to figure out the hidden meanings or why he asked or said anything, bc I know there’s most likely no rhyme or reason. He’s a WS doing and saying as he pleases in the moment and believe none of what they say, less than 50% of what they do right? So I am trying to not think about any of it, just another interaction I believe I handled well for the most part. Now another day begins and I woke up extra early to have some coffee and alone time before the baby wakes up. Hoping to make it a good day for ME.
