You are talking too much to her. Don't tell her why or why you aren't going somewhere. Cut the small chat.
Meetup has lots of groups, you should be going for fun not to be thinking about your sitch all the time.
Understood.
The more you interact as normal and tell her everything you're doing and why, the more she knows you're still there for her and the less reason she has to change the situation. It [censored], because you want to have your old W back. But she is gone.
I do this too, just last night laying next to my W. I wanted to reach out and hold her. But I'm still thinking about the sweet girl I married, not the unrepentant, depressed liar and cheater. So I level out and say "Hello?" to myself before doing that crap. Both our W's have a long ways to go, if they ever do go.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
