As for your comments Andrew, how do you see her clinging to me? She's distancing if anything.
I perhaps expressed myself poorly. I'm not talking about current events, I'm referring to what I've read as a larger pattern / initial reaction.
Her very strong initial push to as some might say "seal the deal" combined with some fairly consistent (and inconsistent) efforts to keep you interested speak to something to me rather different than what a "normal" relationship would be. She is making what seems like a lot of effort to carve out time for you at the detriment of her relationship with her kids for example.
Because I have a tendency to use bad metaphors, you were perhaps a lighthouse in the storm. She knows you are a safe place to rest but is also pulled in other directions. She undoubtedly has other influences around her that you've mentioned that are encouraging her to spend time with you and to have a relationship but there is a lot of "noise" and she's unclear on what "she" actually wants. Hence the bouncing off the windows of the lighthouse and not really trying to find a way in. This is stretching it a bit far now - but perhaps she is self-medicating to quiet the noise and get away from it.
Is she feeling these theoretical expectations from you, from those around her, from herself? No clue.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
