You need to talk to her about finances IMO. Why finance her lifestyle? You guys have a joint venture on the home and the bills there. She needs to contribute or GTFO fully.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
update... asked WW for her share of the bills and gave me an amount which doesn’t even cove 1/4 of the bills. Thru text messages I then told her it’s not enough, and she replied with a very insulting reply, “How much do you need? do i need to support you too?” that’s when i blew my top off. told her “WW you will not and do not have the right to insult me and talk to me like am a POS, a scum, lowlife, predator. you can talk to it that way but not with me and my D13.” She took both keys to a vehicle that we both have our names on. Proceeded to ask her for the key to that vehicle because legally i own it too. She wants me to be vindictive, and yes i will be. Just to top it off I also asked for the dogs ashes, since WW has been holding onto it. This is her reason why she had an A. the dog dying. Then I proceeded to tell her that i will be seeking legal advice on how to proceed with this disrespectful attitude of hers. i will fight for my D13 since she hasn’t been involved in her life for months now. And after telling her those things, I felt a big weight off my shoulders. I know it will still be a long road but this way, i can protect me and D13. No replies yet.
thanks ovrr. i don’t think she realizes that we live in a community property state. what i own, unfortunately she owns too. and what i owe she owes too. WW is to wrapped with POS not thinking about this things. hence the seeeking of legal advice. thanks for the support.
thanks neff... i have to work 4 nights in a row. i will give WW this whole week to decide in what she wants and to give me the items that i have asked for, since she thinks i was vindictive with her, so i will be. on Monday i will get that advice.
ovrr... i did tell her last night. and the answer i got was, “ you want me to support you too?”. that for me is an insult. so i told her that she’s also accountable for credit card bills. i don’t need her support. i do good bu myself. i just want WW to share financial responsibilities equally. not even asking to support D13.
You should be asking her to support your daughter b/c it's her daughter too. You let her slide on any one thing she's gonna know you have a soft spot for her. Give an inch...
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
update... WW came home today and had a talk with D13. i was out to work. D13 recorded the whole convo just in case something bad happens. WW asked D13 if she still wants WW to be part of her life. According to WW she found her own place, not knowing i just saw her this am, taking the same route to work as POS. back to their convo, WW told D13 that me and her are through. D13 says yes, she knows, but told D13 that she want her to stop seeing POS. Of course WW says, “ i hangout with him, but we are not together”.She still thinks D13 can be easily manipulated.D13 tells WW, “sure you’re not”.WW yells at her and tells D13 “my personal life doesn’t have anything to do with yours!” Proceeds to ask D13 if she wants WW to be part of her life. D13 tells her, “ i don’t care. it’s your life, do what you want”. WW starts crying, and apologizing to D13 about hitting her, and trying to justify that it wasn’t even a slap. After not getting the response that she wanted for D13, WW starts yelling “ what do the two of you want with my life?” and starts going upstairs.
with regards to bills, now WW wants to talk about it, how I wanted it split up. Will reply tomorrow when i get home.
Just checked with D13. says she’s ok. Not affected by WW drama. hopefully
