Starsky (a.k.a. Chocolate Eyes, a.k.a. Puppy Dog Tails) used some ideas from one of the other theories of how to deal with A.

Here's his summary: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2513420#Post2513420

H: 35 W: 33
M: 11 T: 13

4/10/18: I discovered A and confronted ("BD1")
6/23/18: I moved out
8/31/18: MC ends ("BD2")