On the day swaps. That's fine. I'd continue to do that for her when you can. When you can't due to schedule then stand your ground.

Helmets are fine too

On the clothes, you need to mention that some of them need to come back up your house. Do it nonconfrontational, but be firm

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018