It feels like he is making choices, like not coming to see his daughter one night for instance, and then makes comments like “am i scheduled to see my daughter tonight?” As if me asking him to schedule times with me is me hindering his time with her, when in reality I’ve made it crystal clear he can see her daily I’d just like to schedule times, and I have not told him no to seeing her. He doesn’t show when it doesn’t work for him, and instead of just accepting that and accepting responsibility for that, he will kind of flip it like it’s on me in a way.
Even when he works late he will text me and say he has to work late, and I KNOW he wants me to tell him he can’t come, and I never do. I always say he can, bc I do not want him placing blame on me because I know that is what he is trying to do. Hopefully that makes sense
