Wife is not who I married...Pls Help Pt5

[Rose888]

LoneWlf, can you write your marital history from your wife's perspective? How would she describe your relationship?

I know people are sometimes very different in real life, but what you've written here on the boards paints a picture of someone who is very convinced he knows the right way to do things, and probably expects his family members to follow his way. My impression is that you express that to your family members in lots of little ways that probably add up to them feeling judged and controlled.

Do you think what I wrote would resonate with your wife?

I think your son is probably a lot like you, and that, combined with the natural black-and-white thinking of teenagers, is causing him to judge his mother harshly. And I think that pleases you, because you think it strengthens your position as "the good guy."

It would be healthier for your son if he saw you modeling compassion and understanding of others.

If your wife were on the board, I'd be saying different things to her, but you are the one who is here. Only you know what rings true when you give it serious consideration.