The main point I am trying to make is if you come to an agreement in advance and you will save thousands.
Go ahead push it forward never speak to her again that's fine. Make it harder on your kids by not being able to be in the same room together.
I was trying to warn you that if you piss her off she will make it that much harder on you.
Personally, I was cordial to my W and played off her guilt and I got the martial home, am paying her half of would I could have and she barely took anything from the house.