Husband cheated, left, trying to DB

[SteveLW]

"When we have discussion I do plan to tell him this isnt what I want but I wont stop it like I said. " this with one tweak:

"When he brings up the discussion I do plan to validate his feelings, tell him this isn't what I want but I wont stop it like I said."

Don't be the one to start the discussion. Make sure to validate his feelings. Then give your "I am against it but won't try to stop it" speech.

And talk to a lawyer!