Great week of working out and work. Have been busy with work and its good bc it takes my mind off of whats happening with my W. I have had NC for almost 3 weeks other than she texted asking if I changed the locks. I never responded.
Apparently someone told D19 that W moved out and she called MIL hysterical crying asking why. MIL had no answers and wanted D19 to talk to W but D19 refused. The reality is starting to hit.
S22 is away on vacation for 5 days and its just me and S21 in the house. Its somewhat fun...
I caught myself almost texting W to see how things are but I know that is not the thing to do, this is the strength we need to have. I will fully admit that this is extremely difficult.
I passed up on going to an Octoberfest today, althoug I am meeting up with this group later today, I am off of work tonight due to mechanical issues.
I am planning a trip to visit a friend in a very nice coastal town. he owes me a steak dinner..lol... should be going at the end of September or early Oct.
Once again W is trying to re-finance the house using my name and the bank has informed her that I would need to sign off on a refi. She may have also dropped me from our health insurance, will know in about a week. It takes a month to drop someone. If she did this will be a huge problem for her. My L now wants to set a court date bc W and her L are not responding to our letters and emails.
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
You continue you to be all over the board. Your W is texting you and you ignore her and then in the next breath you want to reach out and see how she is doing.
This lack of communication is going to cost you a lot of money with the lawyers and most likely cost you health insurance.
IMO you need to accept that this going to happen and sit down with your W and decide who is keeping the house, where the kids will be staying and who is keeping what as far as assets.
If you continue to act in this manner it will push her further away and cost you lots of money.
I have tried and tried to ask her what she wants... Please tell me LH what would you do? I have accepted that I am going to get D'ed. I am not contacting her bc that would be pursuit. her texting me about the locks is strange to say the least.
I was questioning texting her to see how she is doing, yes it is wrong at this point. I was explaining how hard it is... thats all... I am not going to contact her. I am no where near all over the board. She doesnt want to talk to me so why would I contact her? Last we left off she was buying me out of the house...I'm waiting for that.
Please with all due respect, What would you do in my spot? Really... I am all ears and I am looking for answers. Would you set the court date? This will be costly, would you wait for W's L to finally respond? We made our proposal... now what?
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
"For you and the kids to stay on my insurance I need copies of their bith certificates, our marraige license and a document with both our names on it".
She also texted that she wants a key for the front door. I asked her if we can talk on the phone and she said that I shouldnt be complaining about communicating when she texted me two weeks ago and i didnt respond.
I told her I would make copies of all documents and she wants me to leave them in the foyer.
I then called my L and said can we please expodite the D. i want you to get this moving. I am done. My L said that this may require a court date... I said go ahead! Ready... here we go...
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
