Back Again

[Shrike]

Shrike, I've taken a special interest in your sitch due to the similarities in sitches. Multiple EAs, some of the things your W said on BD and since. My W even start getting into horoscopes. This is a deeply devout, faithful Christian woman, one that in her youth had an interest in the occult, but in the last 20+ years has realized that they have no power, and are completely false "sciences".

However, this speaks to waywardness. WWs grasp at straws. They want anything that will tell them what they are doing is right. sandi talks about this, that the wayward that was strong in the faith will throw off that faith as it "condemns" them and the path they are taking.

This tarot stuff is her grasping at straws. Looking for any avenue that will condone what she is doing. At the occult and all the things surrounding that believe system will certainly do that. Now obviously there is nothing you can do about it. As you have said you can't control her, and to try to means you are putting your energy into false hope. However, I wanted to mention this to you so you knew this is not a good thing, spirituality or for the MR. It definitely helps her in some way, but not in a way that is conducive to your desired outcome.

It does make sense that she has started all of this to try and feel right about her path. She constantly speaks to how she just wants to feel ''happy'' and good about her life. Finding herself, cutting out ''negative'' people and negative things. She has cut ties with a lot of friends and family the past few months. Mostly people that were calling her out or disagreeing with her decisions.
She has never really been super religious, she was raised catholic but has not gone to church since she was a child. I am not pushy with all of that. Ive only asked her if she was open to talking about it. To which she replied, she had a relationship with God and that it was good, but that she should be able to explore whatever path she wanted.

Just keep DBing....let her work out her on stuff.


No this does matter. It matters a lot. You need to try to suppress it to the point that there is no way she can sense it. Upbeat, pleasant, present, pleased, confident. That is what she should be seeing in every interaction.

I don't know if I can suppress it, but I definitely think that I can let it out, process it and move past it. All the bad feelings. I know I haven't given myself enough time yet, because I was too caught up in focusing on winning her back. It's time for some introspection and self healing! But as always I understand its a process, and have to deal with setbacks and bad days.