Thank you! I see that you and your wife are around the same age as myself and my husband. Comforting to know Im not alone in this with a newer marriage (3 years this November). Never thought id be here after 9 years together and only 3 years married.
Its funny when I think to myself that I know what I am doing in this whole DBing thing and I feel like im doing good and then I get these urges to text him and invite him to things or do something nice for him. I may have been doing half versions of DBing all along this past year, but with my own downfalls peppered throughout and I am sure I came off as all over the map. I would do a really good job not responding to things and ignoring things, but then id get an urge to see him and send a text as if all was well or something. I dont know, but I thank God for this forum and for people like Steve who have stopped me in following through with those latest urges of reaching out to him. because I think prior to this I probably would have, and wouldnt have realized that it could completely derail my hard work. And Ive been at this 3 weeks I think, and hard work is an under statement. I cant even believe how hard it is actually. Especially with this anger he is showing and all I want to do is ask him whats wrong and how we can fix it.
I feel liek with my GAL and all of this, my H is definitely under the impression I am seeing someone else. He said it to me last week during a tirade of angry texts, I posted on here, and then him telling me last night to stay somewhere else. I just feel like he may truly think I have met someone else, and I absolutely have not. And I dont think I necessarily want him to think that. And I really dont know how in his right mind he could think ive had time! But I just have a feeling that may be something he is thinking. Who knows.
Thanks for telling me you think I can turn this around and to trust myself. Something I used to do so much of, and have lost in this last year of limbo. Rebuilding ME one day at a time thats for sure!
