My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 4

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So W has been home for almost 3 weeks now. She still is giving me some excuses, an attitude, and being rude. Still not 100% honest.

She pushed me hard to go to her parents house Sat b/c her sister was in town. I told her "I'm not comfortable with that right now" but W continued to ask 7 or 8 more times.

Her mom says it's "none of my business" that she lied to me in July about being done with the OM. W lied about this b/c that was my boundary, that I wouldn't "try" or see her if she was. Well MIL, it's my wife, she told me she wants to try, then lied to me to manipulate me into "trying" with her. It is my business, a lot more than my MIL's. W doesn't agree with me.

Her sister was actively pushing her to file for divorce just a few weeks ago so she could bring OM to the lake for Labor Day. And her sister was acting like I'm the devil and OM is so sweet. I read the texts while we were on vacation. Told my W that she (my W) told me this when she was drunk, which is a lie. But I know.

I don't want to hang out with her sister or parents. To them, I'm just an interchangeable cog that is attached to their daughter. I will be discarded when convenient and used as they see fit. They make me want to puke.

But anyways, where to go from here? Keep detaching, GAL, and enforce boundaries (honesty, good treatment of each other).

W hasn't brought up MC, and she also needs to go to IC for her own depression. W says that counseling is just talking and that it won't "do anything"....yeaaaaaa OK.