Now that you capitulated b/c she wanted attention that she got before and wasn't getting this time, how would you say that worked out for you?
It is extremely confusing, because you are too attached to a person full of emotional confusion and you are tying your moods to hers. Keep detaching. She temp-checked you, wanting to know if you'd still be there for her. I'm guessing that letter assured her of that. Do you care to share what kind of things were in the letter?
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I'm thinking about continuing to detach and 180 for at least a few weeks, but I don't want her to think I've completely given up. Maybe she's one of those that just wants her husband to acknowledge how much hurt he has caused.
You actually do want her to think that you are "giving up" and moving on with your life. She wants you to be her fallback in case she changes her mind on the divorce, and you continue to choose to stay right where she wants you. How does it feel to be Plan B? Are you ok with being her backup.
She wants to blame you for everything, not "ahve you acknowledge the hurt. Has she caused hurt for you? Is she acknowledging that openly to make you comfortable so that you can reciprocate? Is she just shouting the Gospel from on high?
Gotta get a pair my man. I mean that in the nicest, yet most serious way possible.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
