Steve, I thought I did and my head was 100% in it. But now I don't know, I guess honestly I don't know.
DB it is, oh well had some good stuff lined up already this weekend so I won't be sitting around thinking about it. This was just the kick in the gut that put me back 6 weeks, I''l shake it, I'm still a better person than I was before this all started.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
So WW is gone another weekend, but before she left she texted that she had fun the night before and have a good day. Rare words for her lately and I only responded, you too. I had a busy weekend and even got a call from the same girl from last weekend asking how it was going and talking about our sitchs since she is in the middle of a D. That helped me last night but stayed busy doing stuff with kids. All in all a good weekend and I will not pursue WWs exiting comments and see where that goes this week. Holding off on D and will keep up the db’ing. Patience...marathon.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
She came home Sunday afternoon I was not home till later that night. Have not heard a word from her, I guess stay the course. Thinking about driving home from our brief encounter over a few drinks Thursday night she said she is still angry yet she agreed to go out that night. I did not pursue, discuss R, D or anything just talk about whats going on in her f'ed up world and lots of opportunities for validation but she seemed to enjoy my company. Def noticed new look, cologne, etc saying I could never get you to wear that and it seemed to upset her. Will have to see if she pursues at all this week.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
^^I guess they feel like they are losing their justification if we dont just sit their and not better ourselves too. I guess some of it is things they wanted in the R, never verbalized it, and now they feel some type of way about it if we do it after BD. I wish my W would have communicated what she wanted during the R. I even asked randomly during our R if she was happy etc, and she said yes. After the fact, she now says she didnt know how to tell/explain it to me. Yet she holds it against me. Its probably the same in both our sitches.
Last edited by equalzr; 09/17/1804:05 PM.
Together:20 years M:3 years Me:40 WW:40 S15 A suspected:5/17 AC:5/18 BD:8/18 WW in full blown R w/ OM Still under same roof
She came home Sunday afternoon I was not home till later that night. Have not heard a word from her, I guess stay the course. Thinking about driving home from our brief encounter over a few drinks Thursday night she said she is still angry yet she agreed to go out that night. I did not pursue, discuss R, D or anything just talk about whats going on in her f'ed up world and lots of opportunities for validation but she seemed to enjoy my company. Def noticed new look, cologne, etc saying I could never get you to wear that and it seemed to upset her. Will have to see if she pursues at all this week.
Go read what I just wrote to harvey. "and it seemed to upset her" EVERYTHING will upset her. It is part of being walk away and/or wayward. BELIEVE NOTHING SHE SAYS.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Steve, when she was visibly upset after hugging me and noticing a subtle change is that not some sort of pursuit in our eyes? I almost think it had to have her thinking.
At least I read it somewhat that way.
Last edited by lost8; 09/17/1804:27 PM.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
As usual after a fantasy weekend wife is ranting about her financial situation because of her frivolous spending spree this summer, hotels, bars, clothes, entertainment. 22K credit cards, 800 car payment, bills in collections, non of these are in my name btw.
Got texts this morning sell the house I want out, filing claim for lost wedding ring (fraudulent) to pay down car lease, her checks are bouncing, has $18 until Friday. How do I respond? She has said a number of times sell the house and I even contacted a realtor but never on board to start process. Want to say the right thing to validate but not offer a solution.
She is unraveling and is sick on top of it.
Crazy only has $18 left yet spent plenty of $ this weekend I'm sure and I know she spent $70-80 yesterday on a laundry basket, dog toys and other misc that I saw when I came home.
Last edited by lost8; 09/18/1812:42 PM.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
