Husband cheated, left, trying to DB

[SteveLW]

It is loss of control. He feels a loss of control over you as you detach and DB. WASs react to that in many different ways. Some will reach out and try to "reconnect" (but only to manipulate, not to really R). Some will get angry (see mtb's threads, his WW reacted much like your H).

Likely he knows that sadness and anger appeal to your Nice Girl Syndrome. And it does, since you are having these pangs of 'reaching out to show him you are still open to doing things with him'. And when this doesn't work he will start throwing D threats at you, again. Playing on your fear of D.

WSs are the epitome of selfish. They will use any tactic at their disposal to try to reestablish control over the LBS. Why? Because they want their cake (family, stability the MR provides) and eat it to (running around acting like single person, As, etc).