Back Again

[SteveLW]

Shrike, I've taken a special interest in your sitch due to the similarities in sitches. Multiple EAs, some of the things your W said on BD and since. My W even start getting into horoscopes. This is a deeply devout, faithful Christian woman, one that in her youth had an interest in the occult, but in the last 20+ years has realized that they have no power, and are completely false "sciences".

However, this speaks to waywardness. WWs grasp at straws. They want anything that will tell them what they are doing is right. sandi talks about this, that the wayward that was strong in the faith will throw off that faith as it "condemns" them and the path they are taking.

This tarot stuff is her grasping at straws. Looking for any avenue that will condone what she is doing. At the occult and all the things surrounding that believe system will certainly do that. Now obviously there is nothing you can do about it. As you have said you can't control her, and to try to means you are putting your energy into false hope. However, I wanted to mention this to you so you knew this is not a good thing, spirituality or for the MR. It definitely helps her in some way, but not in a way that is conducive to your desired outcome.

I'd have something prepared to address it if and when she brings it up. Obviously do not invalidated her feelings, but you need to walk the fine line between invalidating her feelings and accepting this type of mysticism. All of this speaks to her overall morality, or the lack thereof (IE the conversations you found on her phone).

Just keep DBing....let her work out her on stuff.

Im sure she could still sense my sadness, even though I was trying to suppress it. Guess that doesn't really matter and all I can do is keep working until that feeling goes away.

No this does matter. It matters a lot. You need to try to suppress it to the point that there is no way she can sense it. Upbeat, pleasant, present, pleased, confident. That is what she should be seeing in every interaction.