Hey guys, wanted to give and update and now I really could use some good advice with my sitch. She came over today to pick up some papers (job related) and saw that our dog was acting sad. She started crying and said "this is all your fault, why couldn't you change before and we would have worked it out", then said something like "I just want to start over and move on, I can't believe I'm 31 and a single mother again etc etc, hopefully I'll find someone to treat me how I wanted you to treat me, why don't we just not talk about this anymore and you find someone also." I was able to calm her down and end the convo.
Last thing she said was that she doesn't feel anything for me other then anger and even if I bought her flowers/chocolates it doesn't mean anything. But that she really wishes she could feel something for me and wishes that we could work it out. I asked her if we would put our heads together to try to figure this out would she be willing to try and she said that she'd like to but doesn't believe that it's possible, and if she doesn't feel anything for me then she doesn't feel like she can try.
So I know she does need more cooling down time, she is still hurt and angry at me. I thought she wasn't that angry anymore since we haven't been fighting (due to the boundaries I implemented). What would be the best method to help her calm down? I guess I just need to give her time, any other ideas?
