You continue you to be all over the board. Your W is texting you and you ignore her and then in the next breath you want to reach out and see how she is doing.
This lack of communication is going to cost you a lot of money with the lawyers and most likely cost you health insurance.
IMO you need to accept that this going to happen and sit down with your W and decide who is keeping the house, where the kids will be staying and who is keeping what as far as assets.
If you continue to act in this manner it will push her further away and cost you lots of money.
