Spent the last few days planning vacations and weekends for me and just the kids. Eldest are asking that wife join us on trips. I am Close to telling them that wife and I need time apart, but I do not need the aggravation from the ex, as they will tell ex. Also, finding that some of my single women friends who are aware of my situation are being more aggressive towards me on dating them. Perhaps I should not have told them about my situation. This is hard, but I plan on telling them they need to wait until I am better and if my wife goes through with it, divorced. It feels good to be wanted by someone else, and I am starting to realize I may be coming to a point of no return from my wife. There are others out there who love me for me. I have to be patient but I am not sure now if I should proceed with a divorce that wife filed but is doing no additional steps right now. I feel like she is driving this car and I am tired of being the passenger with no control. I am getting much better through. I do not even care about talking to her. Maybe this is just a phase. I guess this really is a test for me on unconditional love of someone who is divorcing me.