Husband cheated, left, trying DB 3

[SteveLW]

Kech, I wrote this based on the picnic thread in another poster's thread. Thought it might help you:

This is so good!! It reminds me of a screen saver from years ago that we used to put on WIndows PCs. It was called Johnny Castaway. When the screensaver would launch there would be a picture of an island, and Johnny Castaway, as a castaway on it.

Johnny usually moped about the island, looking forelorn, sad, lonely. He'd stand and look at the PC user. He'd wave, or walk to the other end of the island.

When Johnny was doing what he ALWAYS did, he was boring. You couldn't wait to move your mouse to get him off of your screen.

Every once in a while Johnny would get involved into something that might make his life better on the island. Whether it was fishing. Or trying to start a fire. Or getting a coconut from the lone tree on the island and trying to open it. When Johnny got involved in something like that he became interesting! His focus was no more on the fact that he was alone, on an island. The viewer would get sucked in and wonder "what is Johnny doing?" "Will he be successful?" "What will be the outcome?"

When you were interested to see what Johnny was doing you didn't dare move your mouse to make him go away! You were sucked in and interested again! Why? Because he was being proactive, he was doing unusual things, he was worried about himself and only himself and trying to better his life.

YOU are Johnny Castaway. She is the PC user. In order to keep her from moving her mouse to make you go away you need to stay busy (GAL). You need to do things you don't normally do (180). You need to ignore the PC user and go about your own business (detach).