"The Judge was able to point out that both of you were able to say positive things about each other’s parenting and the kids relationships with both, which was something that could be built upon (I didn't anything like that). He also emphasised how important it would be for the kids to spend quality time with both. This seemed to have a very persuasive effect on W and to give her credit she then did make very fair proposals based on an equal shared care plan. This was far better than we had anticipated, as the Court could not have made this order without consent from you both."
I'm not sure what to take from that, if anything, because when W first left 4 months ago she said she would agree to a 50/50 deal (believe nothing that they say...) but she then heavily controlled and restricted me seeing the kids.
I then calmly and firmly said I'd had enough of being messed around and then surprisingly W let me have them for 2 weeks.
W then made a statement in advance of the court hearing claiming bad things. At the court case, W offered very limited childcare access. W was then made aware that I would be making counter-claims against her and I had evidence to show her claims were not true. The Judge and L teams spoke in private. W then backed-down to withdraw all of her claims against me, must have said I was a good parent, and she offered 50/50.
4 months since BD and all I have is an agreement that W said she would make when she left. There's been no MR talk for nearly 3 months, no talk from either of us except formalities about the kids, and now we will only meet once per week in a public place to exchange the kids. I can't see any MR progress other than I look and feel better than I did.
