check out some other sitches here. You'll see advice that you may be able to use. You'll see perspective that will help you in your situation as well.
How did you "blow it"? It seems like you were just hoping for more from your H after seeing him play the role in front of your sister. That's understandable. But now, for yourself, you need to drop the expectations, ok?
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.