kech, actually I do remember an incident in early Feb. Again before I really started detaching. She had offered to let me see her cellphone a few times. Of course she didn't know that I knew (from my snooping) that she was installing and uninstalling apps. So I finally said "so I can look at your phone, install any app I want and have you log into your account on that app?" She said sure in a very reluctant way. So on the first or second Saturday of Feb. I woke up that morning and it was eating at me (see, not detached). So I said, let me see your phone. She unlocked it and handed it to me. I installed a couple of apps and had her log into them. Sure enough, I started finding things. Her OM and an the previous (2005) OM were both top contacts on FB messenger. On a game app with messaging I found another guy that was saying some very inappropriate, racy things (including that he had sent her a pic that she thought I might have, seen, but I hadn't). Admittedly with that guy she wasn't reciprocating, but she wasn't shutting his smut talk down either.
She left the room after a while. Then she came back into the room she said: "On Monday please contact your lawyer and file for D." I said, "okay, where is this coming from." She said: "I think we are done. You are never going to trust me again."
I stayed calm. I restated that I was against D and wouldn't file. And that she was right, trust was going to take consistently trustworthy behavior from her for a long period of time.
My point is that this recent anger towards you is just a blip on the radar screen. They go through crazy ups and downs like that. I wouldn't sweat this anger, it is a phase. It will pass. Look how many times he's threatened "dissolution" and hasn't followed through on it. His anger is the half of the "don't believe half of what they do" that you shouldn't believe. It is manufactured, and it is anger at having got caught.
Last edited by Steve85; 09/14/1810:19 PM.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
