yes Steve really has. And so have you! Thank you for that. 14 months, Im at 12 so hopefully I can accomplish detachment soon. I havent been actively working on it until now. No social media, no driving by the bars, just need my mind and heart to catch up with me. I want to detach from his comments to me, I want to detach from wondering why he says what he says and why hes doing this, saying that, what hes trying to get out of telling me certain things. IM constantly on the defense thinking hes saying something to me in order to pull the wool over my eyes and be with OW, or schedule times with D so he can spend time with OW, and its those situations that really kill me, that I know I have no control over and need to detach from. Everything involving OW tears me UP. I need to detach from ALL of that. And I am working at it. Every day. I need to read Sandi's rules again, I need to read the lighthouse thread also.
Still no clue if he plans to come tonight but I am not going to ask him. I am just going to go on with my night. It will hurt me if he doesnt because I know he will be with OW, but I will still have a good night with Daughter and its his loss of time with her, not mine. Shes the most important thing to me in ALL of this. by far
