Husband cheated, left, trying DB 3

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Steve, follow up question, how did you know once you mastered detachment and what changes did you see that we’re profound. In yourself? In W? Both?

Thanks in advance

Kech,

This is the question I was looking for. Honestly, it took me about 14 months from BD to completely detach. I placed expectations on my sitch to turn around by being nice and doing certain things. Kinda like you are now.

It wasn't until I was able to confirm AP in the picture that I was able to truly process my hurt and anger, that I was able to detach and let go. I was in BIG TIME denial and being played a fool. Don't know what I was thinking. She moved 1100 miles away.

Looking back, I can identify that I was detached when I stopped wondering/questioning if I was detached and I took a long break from these forums. It happened by me living my life and accepting the reality of my M/R being over. Thankfully it was, because it was broken.

Keep working. You have made a significant amount of progress in the short time you have been here.

Hey, Steve beat me to it. Just saw that he posted. He has been quite a resource for you with his solid advice.