Thanks all for your advice. My dilemma is this... even if W was willing to re-consider MR:
A) The day after W left she said to me "You'll never be able to trust me ever again". I know enough about us to know that she really will think that, so she will think there's no point in her even trying. However, I would be willing to see what's possible.
B) W won't want to admit anything to me that could hurt me (and there could be more that I don't yet know about).
C) Her pride and ego will get in the way because she likes everyone to think how wonderful she is.
D) W really is incredibly stubborn and always has been. She doesn't say 'sorry' unless prompted.
E) W has used our problems to gain attention and sympathy.
F) W has used our problems as an excuse for failing exams and work issues.
G) W reacts badly to anything that could be seen as any kind as a personal criticism.
H) W lives with her parents who are very supportive of her (but they have both said they have noticed good changes in me).
I) W won't talk about anything MR related. I've not approached the subject for a couple of months or so.
.....so?
Why would you want to be in a relationship with someone that isnt willing to fight for you? She walked out the door and split up your family and took your kids away from you....why should she get a free pass back just because 'its hard for her'?
Look, if she wants to R with you, she needs to make that decision. No amount of counseling is going to 'convince her' to change her mind. This is your chance to change the status quo and forge a new relationship. Why would you squander it and move back into old habits?
Stop trying to FIX her problems. Focus on you and your kids as youve been doing. Let her work on herself too.]
