Toenail, she really went off the rails. I mean laying down with OM in the marital bed when she surely knew you would be home soon, and with D just feet away, well it all just sounds like a "girls gone wild" situation. She knew EXACTLY what she was doing- playing with fire. And of course she's going to tell you it's all your fault. Don't buy into the BS. She's a classic wayward wife. If you don't know the difference between a WW and WAW then read around the forums, Sandi's posts in particular. Sandi does not pull any punches when it comes to WW's, she'll tell you tough love is the only approach with a WW.
Originally Posted by toenail
i've let her go. she hasn't been home for almost a week now. me and D13 doesn't care anymore. D13 now accepts the fact that she is not her mother that she once knew. don't know where she is, don't care where she's staying.
This is actually the best thing you can do right now. Leave her to the mess she's made. Her little fantasy is going to blow up in her face at some point and she'll likely come crawling back, but it could be a long time from now. But until then, just concentrate on you and D. Read DR and read the links Cadet posted for how to handle this. No begging/ pleading/ negotiating. Give her time and space.
