I didn't say you beat her. I meant that you can't beat her, but you still have to take some sort of action.

Your snooping and pursuit (AKA asking her where she's been when you know darn well) showed her that you are still hers, that she hasn't lost anything. A strong man does not worry about a woman who doesn't want him, and you are your WW are back to basic attraction 101 here.

You may have been vindictive, but you got married and both made a promise to forsake all others right? So it's not like you're being vindictive out of the blue. Of course she wants to run free and jump in the OM's bed, but what will you do about it?

H 34
W 29
BD 3/12/18
Divorce Busted Spring 19

It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.