Hopefully this is all now behind us. Going forward, I need to make sure I give her the best husband she deserves because I have not been one for the first 13 years, which in pushed her to check out of this marriage. My goal now is to get her to be physical and intimate with me again. I have a feeling it won’t be easy, but hopefully through successful GAL and 180, I will be able to change her view of me. Wish me good luck….
Please reexamine your goals. Let me try to rewrite this so that you can see what you should be focusing on:
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Hopefully this is all now behind us. Going forward, I need to make sure I am the best Matrix5 I can be....FOR ME. My goal now is to start MR 2.0, since the old marriage is dead and buried. I have a feeling it won’t be easy, but hopefully through successful GAL and 180 and detachment (IE self differentiation, I will be able to live up to the goals and ideals I have for myself. By doing this the hope is that my W will take notice, and she will be physical and intimate with me again someday, and we both will have the marriage we both deserve! Wish me good luck….
I understand I need to GAL and do a 180. The only problem I’m having with GAL is the detachment part. She is an extrovert and likes to talk. I’m an introvert. If go quiet on her (detachment) she thinks something is wrong or something is on my mind again. I need to master the fine balance between showing that I care about her and her needs (something I didn’t do for the first 13 years of our marriage), and GAL. That will take some practice.
M (LBS): 41, W (WAS) : 40 M: 16Y, T: 22Y Kids: 11, 9, 9 A: since 2015 DB: since July 2017
