Is it possible that your W is depressed? Your W looks very much like a depressed person.
It is very difficult when somebody is depressed, he/she will put all the blame to his/her love one. She regreted married to you. Every outlook to the future is grey. SHe is very unhappy.
I have the same dillema and try to convince my W to seek professional help. But until now she is refusing help. May be you could try with your W?
