I’m sure you’re right. He responded to me unnecessarily and said “my pleasure”, being a smart a*s. This is seriously a whole new level of anger for him. I can’t believe he’s been acting this way for 3 days now. I’m obviously not responding but I just don’t get it
Passive-aggressive behavior. Another toxic relationship symptom.
kech, let me ask you. If you can take a step back (and I know it's hard, believe me), and see this happening, ask yourself, "Is this the man I fell in love with at the start? Was THIS a trait I was attracted to?" I would assume that you would say "No. I would not even touch that crazy with a 10 foot pole!"
That being said, I know that you're thinking "The true/loving H is still there, buried under all of that." and that may be true. However (again speaking from experience), he has changed. And right now, he's going through a TON of changes while he is in his (thick) fog. Who knows where he will end up once it's lifted? That's not for you to work on, kech.
You need to continue through this painful detox. By GAL, by detaching, by 180s, by working on being the best damn kech you can be. I know it's hard. I'm speaking from experience. And you will stumble and revert back to old habits. But you get up, get some tough love from the folks here, and you keep going.
We're stronger than we think, kech. Hard to never forget that.
