My grandmother died last week and W told me that since I would not move out, I was "choosing" to make her file for D because she has no other options. W said she was hoping to avoid the nastiness and cost of such a proceeding and wanted to know the exactr reasons why I didn't want a divorce so that she could "help me" avoid this fight. I said it was the full package, personal beliefs, desire for an R with my wife, despite the past (pressure--I know), finances, and the children. W has a hard time seeing the cumulative impact of all factors and wanted to focus on resolving an isolated issue or two.
I won't bothert to spell out my poor DBing efforts in response to her latest efforts; suffice it to say that we are in the same deadlock and W has a personal counselor helping her be comfortable with her decision.
So, I guess I'll just wait for the other shoe to drop on the divorce filing and let the lawyers become rich!
Note to Betsey: I'm the opposite of your H to my wife. While you keep wondering when H will finally commit, my W keeps waiting for me to finally give up. What a life! Oh well, keep on thinking one day at a time.
