CMM is a good cook and a pretty clean eater so my diet is actually improved. The last two weekends have been full of stressful errands and taxes but this weekend is open and we plan to fill it with fun things - wine tasting, comedy club etc. I have a lot of support. Fortunately I am really good at just putting one foot in front of the other.
I used my DB skills this morning in helping CMM craft a reply to one of his daughters. He's well intentioned but I've learned so much here about the importance of validation. His default position is defensiveness but that invalidates the apologies his girls want for the pain and havoc the divorce caused in their lives. I had to walk him through writing a message that validated their pain and gave a true apology without defensiveness. It's sad to think that just because he lacked that simple skill things have deteriorated so much with his girls. He really is a good guy who wanted to do the best for his girls and tried to make up for the things their mom was lacking as they grew up.
